Women don’t like to talk about masturbation. We blush, we feel ashamed, we joke when it is mentioned that we, too, play with ourselves. What’s with all this secrecy? Down with it! In fact, we shouldn’t stop talking about the benefits of masturbation. Besides it has stress-relieving, mood-enhancing effects, as you get to know your body better, you can be more confident in sex, as well. Many people like to do it before they fall asleep (or instead of sleeping), some do it after waking up in the morning, or you can actually do it whenever you are in the mood for it.
But still, how do we, women, masturbate? Well, let’s revise anatomy 101 before going any further.
Clit
It is also known as the clitoris, its top is located where anterior parts of the labia minora meet. It swells to sexual arousal and is surrounded by a fold of skin. It is our only organ that is for pleasure only!
Vulva
External female genitalia i.e. the vaginal opening and the surrounding organs together
Its parts: labia majora, labia minora, rima pudendi, mons pubis, clitoris, vulva vestibule and hymen.
Vagina
We mean the internal female sex organ i.e the tube connecting the vulva and the cervix
With these notions, we will be able to navigate more easily in the topics of sex and masturbation, but if you want to learn more about the structure of the genitals, I highly recommend this page (only in Hungarian sadly).
Let’s get to the point: I’ve gathered some tips for you on how you can pleasure yourself. The list is endless, of course and I’m sure you could expand it with your own ideas.
Relax
It is definitely a good starting point if you can create an environment where no one can disturb you. Mute your phone, send the dog to the other room, tell the old lady next door to lower the volume of the state news channel, etc.
Watch porn
I know it’s not easy to find quality porn that is enjoyable, too. I am usually successful with the search term ‘real dyke’ when I browse my favorite free sites, but it’s also worth checking out specifically ‘female friendly’ porn sites like ChrashPadSeries.com, bellesa, or ersties.
Read erotic stories
Yes, it’s so old school, but believe me it works for many people.
Listen to music
Music helps you relax: find the coolest Spotify playlists!
Fantasize
This is something that always works really well. Just close your eyes and imagine your hottest sexual desire. For example, the idea of a threesome always helps me get in the mood.
Discover your body
Most women concentrate on the clitoris when pleasuring themselves. Spend time getting to know the rest of your vulva and vagina.
Educate yourself
Like other skills, masturbation techniques are learnable, too! OMGyes for example, approaches the topic from a scientific perspective, they have been studying female pleasure in partnership with 20,000 women.
Use sex toys
The supply is huge, it is not easy to choose the perfect vibrator. If you feel lost in the world of sex shops, check out our other articles about sex.
Lubricate
Not many would think about using lubes, but they are awesome partners when playing with yourself. In addition to traditional lubricants, a wide variety of special stimulant gels are now available. Have you ever heard of the liquid vibrator? It exists! Well, I find the name a bit of an exaggeration, but you do have more intense orgasms with it. What worked best for me: Orgie Sexy Vibe Orgasm. A drop or two is enough and an enhanced orgasm is guaranteed.
Translated by Emese Balog
