“Don’t you think that’s a bit too much?”: Cookies, ideals and body positivity
As women** we often hear we should lose a few pounds (or less frequently that we should gain). Doctors, friends, family: basically anyone can come...
The myth of the “scary” bisexual
Lesbians often warn against starting a relationship with bisexuals. However, I for one would like to debate this ever-popular wisdom. This misbelief is so widespread,...
Do we all start our lives as boys?
In my childhood, I was a boy. Everything around me pointed to this fact. The fairy tales about the youngest son going on a quest,...
The library as the scene of coming out
It’s obvious that for the sake of the individual’s and society’s mental health coming out should be made possible. What is not discussed in similar...
Lesbians* – a more expensive life on less money?
We live in the 21th century, so we’re enjoying the fruits of over a century of feminist struggle. Nowadays voting is a basic right for...
How to dress at the workplace, or: is there such a thing as female professionalism?
First of all: of course there is! The sad truth is, though, that for most of the course of history this answer was not at...
Pride is on the company – we’ve been to the Boston Pride
’Rainbow Resistance’: that was the slogan of this year’s Boston Pride. You may ask what that means – what exactly are we resisting and what...
What’s in a name? – about identity questions a little differently
Do you remember that scene in Romeo and Juliet where Juliet realizes that Romeo is the son of the hostile family and she starts thinking...
How do you spot lesbians? – Or invisibility is diverse, too
If you live in a society where you can be an out lesbian*, the community becomes visible in some way: there is some kind of...
Boston vs. Budapest – where is it easier to be a lesbian*?
For me, as for many others, being a lesbian in Budapest has never been easy. I always had trouble finding the places where I could...